Saying, "I love you"... when is it too much, not enough? Should you ever refrain from saying it because you're sure the other person knows you love them already and don't need to hear it?
Every opportunity I have, I say I love you to my family and my close friends. Before bedtime, as we're getting off the phone, before I take off on a plane for work travel, just randomly during the day as I grab a kid in a bear hug. There is never a moment in any of their lives where they will doubt the love I have for them. For some strange reason, I ended up marrying the guy who decided early in our relationship that saying, "I love you" all the time was overkill, I should know he loved me... And, sadly, I accepted that. Shocker that things fell apart as they did.
I'm not about to push for people tossing out generic sounding "love you" just to say it...it has to be felt from the heart and also has to be followed up with demonstrations of love in every day situations. Like, perhaps, bear hugging children, putting away laundry, picking up flowers, having a truck detailed, passionate kiss out of no where, actively listening to your person to know which author is their favorite, which movie they want to see, cooking dinner...sitting with them quietly after a long hard day without any expectations.
Never, ever, ever pass up an opportunity to say, "I love you". You just don't know when that chance will be gone and the regret carried on both sides of the coin can be more than most can handle. Do you want to look back at the last time you were with someone special and remember their voice saying, "I love you" and having that echo in your heart? Or, do you want to kick yourself for the rest of your life for not saying it to them while the moment was there?
Think about it... :) I love you!
5 comments:
*snuggles* I love you too.
Maybe it is obvious, but like kisses I think its something that needs to be said often. I think it keeps us from taking it for granted, plus most human beings are by nature filled with doubt. Even when you *know* it, if you don't hear it often, if you don't see it in all the little loving things that back it up, then insecurities come in.
I love you too!
I once read a quote "If you count the times you said I love you and didn't mean it and the times you felt it but didn't say it, the times would be about the same." Or something to that effect. There are a few times in my "past life" that I really wanted to tell someone that I loved him...but was afaid he wouldn't love me back. Or even worse laugh at me. But now I know that it wouldn't have mattered what he thought...I really should have said it anyway.
soo fits the scenario to my life at this exact moment.... can I copy and paste this to someone as a word of advice to them?!!? eh...won't matter anyways. He won't understand....
you can if you want... that's the point of the blog. if something that's happened to me can make a difference to others, then go for it. just email it to him.
@mom_kay: Always say it when you want to say it...never say it for wanting to hear it back in return (although, hearing it from the other person is wonderful, so long as it's heartfelt)... Love you.
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